Communicating With Your Kids
The way parents and teachers communicate with their children has an effect on their way of thinking and how they develop emotionally and educationally. As parents and educators you really need to make sure you are asking questions, encouraging, and making statements to your children as often as possible versus making commands and supplying them immediately with the correct answer. Treat your child with the same respect you would your best friend.
The following are some ways you can communicate with your child more effectively to create a better learning environment:
When your child shows interest in something or is trying to learn on their own, do not be quick to step in and correct them, but let them know that you are there to help if needed. Not doing things exactly right in the beginning and then figuring out the solution to the problem on their own is a great way that children learn effectively.
If your child is in the middle of a project, show genuine interest by getting down to their level and asking them how they did what they did.
When you are doing something in front of your child, try to remember to describe your actions out loud so they can hear and learn from you.
Give specific positive feedback! If a child does something, do not just say “Great Job!” Give specifics on what they did that you like encouraging them to do more. For example your child is doing an art project, tell them something like, “That’s so colorful! It really stands out on that pink paper.”
If your child wants to talk to you, make sure you are looking directly at them and do not have many disturbances going on like the TV or reading a book.
Ask questions to your child that get them thinking beyond the task at hand. For example, “How does this work?”, “What other vegetables are green?”, Why do you like this?”, etc.
If at all possible, try to correct your child by pulling him/her aside and letting them know quietly. Correcting a child in public is not only embarrassing but will lead to resentment and a feeling of not being respected or valued.
Get down to the child’s level to talk to them rather than standing over them.
Try to always talk to your child in a calm manner. If needed, take a moment to cool off and then talk to the child about correcting their behavior. Children do not learn well from yelling because rather than focusing on what you are telling them they are focusing on your behavior.
Listen carefully and politely. Don’t interrupt the child when he is trying to tell his story. Don’t use put-down words or statements.
Assist the child in planning some specific steps to the solution.
Show that you accept the child himself, regardless of what he has or has not done.
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