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What is a Bully? Recognize the Signs of Bullying

Recognizing the warning signs of bullying is the first step to protect against bullies and ease your child’s trauma.  Bullying is a form of abuse and may come in different forms – physical, verbal, emotional and psychological.

Stopbullying.gov has defined forms of bullying and acts of the bully as:

Verbal Bullying:  Saying or writing mean things.  Examples include: teasing, name-calling and inappropriate sexual comments, taunting and threatening to cause harm.

Social Bullying or Relational Bullying: Hurting someone’s reputation or relationships.  Examples include: leaving someone out on purpose, telling other children not to be friends with someone, spreading rumors about someone and embarrassing someone in public,

Physical Bullying:  Hurting a person’s body or possessions.  Examples include: hitting/kicking/pinching, spitting, tripping/pushing, taking or breaking someone’s things and making mean or rude hand gestures

Since most victims of bullying already feel isolated and helpless, they tend to keep this to themselves.  This proves to be a difficulty for a parent even for teachers when helping a child deal with bullies.

Dr. Ted Zeff, author of The Strong, Sensitive Boy suggested the following telltale signs of child being bullied:

  • Is your child disconnecting from people and isolating him/herself in their room? Although teens usually separate from the family, they normally connect more often with their friends.
  • Has your child developed physical problems such as stomachaches and headaches that interfere with their life?
  • Has your child’s schoolwork recently suffered, and is it difficult for your child to concentrate?
  • Does your child have trouble falling, or staying asleep or experience frequent nightmares?
  • Does your child seem listless, unenthusiastic, and disinterested in life?
  • Have you noticed that your child seems hypervigilant, extremely nervous, depressed, or emotionally explosive (beyond the normal teenage angst and moodiness)?

The behaviour your child is displaying may be a result of bullying and if left disregarded may develop depression and severe anxiety in your children.  In severe cases this may even result in post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

If you think your child is being bullied you can help them protect against bullies.  Talk with them and find out what has been bothering them.  If bullying is the cause of these behavior changes, reassure them that they’re not at fault and that it’s the bully’s behaviour that is wrong.  Also let them know that there is nothing wrong with asking for help when they need help.

For more information and help about bullying, visit your local centers or go to www.stopbullying.gov

 

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My Kid’s the Target of the Bully: How Do I Deal?

Nest Community came across this lovely website called No Place 4 Hate.  The website is run by two beautiful sisters named Lizzie and Becky who wanted to make a difference in their own way and get the word out about bullying through real stories of kids being bullied and how they coped.

If you suspect your child to be a target for bullying but refuses to tell you anything, you can share this with your child and let them see they aren’t alone.

One story that caught our attention is a young girl who convinced her mother everyday to decide when to homeschool her because of bullying by old friends.  Through her time in homeschooling, she got over her hurt and realized her self-worth.  She eventually came back for middle school at a private institution only to find herself a target for bullies – once again.   Admitting her shyness and telling her mother that ignoring the bullies only made it worse, her mother advised her to speak up with others dealing with the same issue.

More stories about bullying and overcoming bullying can be found here.

It’s inspiring how these kids found an outlet to talk about how they feel about bullying and had the courage to post their stories.  One thing common in all their stories is a message to speak up! Tell your parents or an adult you trust about it and to never deal with your problems alone.

Even with all the articles available on bullying and expert advice on “Helping My Child Deal with Bullies”, there can never be one standard way to deal with bullying.  It is always best to evaluate the situation WITH your child and decide what steps to take TOGETHER.

Kids just want to belong.  Being part of a group, with loyal friends for support growing up, will positively help protect against bullies.Watch movie online The Transporter Refueled (2015)

 

About Nest Entertainment: From its origin over twenty years ago, NestEntertainment.com has become a leader providing entertaining and educational resources for the expansive family market.  In addition to creating enriching stories and highest quality animated and musical productions, we have carved a niche as the nexus distributor between the wholesome Family Entertainment, Home Education and Christian markets through our proven Internet retail and wholesale distribution system.

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