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20 fun toddler activities and games

We found this great article about activities you can do with your young childern. Keep them busy! movie Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles: Out of the Shadows 2016

The Perils of Texting While Parenting

This is an intriguing article about how texting and other distractions with technology has made our parental supervision dangerous for our children.

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Parent’s Guide To The Empty Nest

Parent's Guide To The Empty Nest By Barbara Rainey and Susan Yates

Parent's Guide To The Empty Nest By Barbara Rainey and Susan Yates

Are you feeling those “empty nest” blues?  Guide To The Empty Nest by Barbara Rainey and Susan Yates is perhaps one of the most helpful books for parents about to begin their “Empty Nest” journey.  If your kids have flown the coop—leaving you dazed about what’s next for you—following these 4 easy remedies can help you battle the feelings of loneliness and emptiness as your kids leave home for college:

Remedy #1:  Learn to let go, but maintain communication. Understand that your role as parents is changing.  Your child is beginning his journey to adulthood, and he will need you to be supportive.  Allow him to make decisions and mistakes. Let him appreciate the value of consequences and the beauty of redemption.  This will prepare him for “adult life”.  Let him live independently, but maintain communication.  Let him decide on his schedule and classes, and even how often he should call you.  The trick here is: don’t overcrowd, or suffocate, him.  Let him come to you in his own terms, and you’ll be pleasantly surprised.

Remedy #2:  Get yourself a good support system. Join a support group, if at all possible.  Talk to other parents whose children recently went away for college, and learn from each other’s experiences.  Don’t hesitate to create new friendships.  You need as much support as you can possibly get at this point.  Like what Barbara Rainey and Susan Yates wrote in the book Guide To The Empty Nest, you don’t have to do this alone.  Always keep that in mind.

Remedy #3:  Find fun things to do instead of worry. Start a new hobby or a creative project, and get yourself busy.  Take that trip you’ve been meaning to for years, but couldn’t because of the kids.  Start painting again.  Volunteer in your community, or start a new business venture.  You can even adopt a new pet if you want!  Do the things you’ve always wanted to, but never had the time or the extra funds to.  This can do wonders for your soul.

Remedy #4:  Stock up on good books and resources.  There are many books, resources, and forums out there like the Guide To The Empty Nest by Barbara Rainey and Susan Yates.  We primarily suggest this book because these two authors have navigated through the same territory before with their kids and are now sharing their personal experiences, as well as those of many other parents.  You learn from their mistakes and successes.

Teaching Your Children Using the Right Communication

Communicating With Your Kids

Communicating With Your Kids

The way parents and teachers communicate with their children has an effect on their way of thinking and how they develop emotionally and educationally. As parents and educators you really need to make sure you are asking questions, encouraging, and making statements to your children as often as possible versus making commands and supplying them immediately with the correct answer. Treat your child with the same respect you would your best friend.

The following are some ways you can communicate with your child more effectively to create a better learning environment:

  • When your child shows interest in something or is trying to learn on their own, do not be quick to step in and correct them, but let them know that you are there to help if needed. Not doing things exactly right in the beginning and then figuring out the solution to the problem on their own is a great way that children learn effectively.
  • If your child is in the middle of a project, show genuine interest by getting down to their level and asking them how they did what they did.
  • When you are doing something in front of your child, try to remember to describe your actions out loud so they can hear and learn from you.
  • Give specific positive feedback! If a child does something, do not just say “Great Job!” Give specifics on what they did that you like encouraging them to do more. For example your child is doing an art project, tell them something like, “That’s so colorful! It really stands out on that pink paper.”
  • If your child wants to talk to you, make sure you are looking directly at them and do not have many disturbances going on like the TV or reading a book.
  • Ask questions to your child that get them thinking beyond the task at hand. For example, “How does this work?”, “What other vegetables are green?”, Why do you like this?”, etc.
  • If at all possible, try to correct your child by pulling him/her aside and letting them know quietly. Correcting a child in public is not only embarrassing but will lead to resentment and a feeling of not being respected or valued.
  • Get down to the child’s level to talk to them rather than standing over them.
  • Try to always talk to your child in a calm manner. If needed, take a moment to cool off and then talk to the child about correcting their behavior. Children do not learn well from yelling because rather than focusing on what you are telling them they are focusing on your behavior.
  • Listen carefully and politely. Don’t interrupt the child when he is trying to tell his story. Don’t use put-down words or statements.
  • Assist the child in planning some specific steps to the solution.
  • Show that you accept the child himself, regardless of what he has or has not done.
  • Do you you have any great parenting tips or stories? Let others know by commenting below.

    Your Top Embarrassing Parenting Stories

    Everyone knows that you reach a whole new level of embarrassment when you have children. Whether it be applauding you in a public bathroom for using the “potty” or yelling across the grocery store that their sibling passed gas, your children never cease to amaze you at the worst times. Please share here some of your top embarrassing moments as a parent so that everyone can laugh, relate and share in the wonderful moments of parenting.


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