Are you feeling those “empty nest” blues? Guide To The Empty Nest by Barbara Rainey and Susan Yates is perhaps one of the most helpful books for parents about to begin their “Empty Nest” journey. If your kids have flown the coop—leaving you dazed about what’s next for you—following these 4 easy remedies can help you battle the feelings of loneliness and emptiness as your kids leave home for college:
Remedy #1: Learn to let go, but maintain communication. Understand that your role as parents is changing. Your child is beginning his journey to adulthood, and he will need you to be supportive. Allow him to make decisions and mistakes. Let him appreciate the value of consequences and the beauty of redemption. This will prepare him for “adult life”. Let him live independently, but maintain communication. Let him decide on his schedule and classes, and even how often he should call you. The trick here is: don’t overcrowd, or suffocate, him. Let him come to you in his own terms, and you’ll be pleasantly surprised.
Remedy #2: Get yourself a good support system. Join a support group, if at all possible. Talk to other parents whose children recently went away for college, and learn from each other’s experiences. Don’t hesitate to create new friendships. You need as much support as you can possibly get at this point. Like what Barbara Rainey and Susan Yates wrote in the book Guide To The Empty Nest, you don’t have to do this alone. Always keep that in mind.
Remedy #3: Find fun things to do instead of worry. Start a new hobby or a creative project, and get yourself busy. Take that trip you’ve been meaning to for years, but couldn’t because of the kids. Start painting again. Volunteer in your community, or start a new business venture. You can even adopt a new pet if you want! Do the things you’ve always wanted to, but never had the time or the extra funds to. This can do wonders for your soul.
Remedy #4: Stock up on good books and resources. There are many books, resources, and forums out there like the Guide To The Empty Nest by Barbara Rainey and Susan Yates. We primarily suggest this book because these two authors have navigated through the same territory before with their kids and are now sharing their personal experiences, as well as those of many other parents. You learn from their mistakes and successes.